The first thing to do is check whether the individual left any instructions about the kind of funeral they wanted.

Reviewing their will or an Expression of Wishes form could help to provide clarification, or they might have talked it through with someone else close to them.

For example, they might have stated whether they’d like to be buried or cremated, left details of a particular preference for a venue and might even have chosen music or readings they’d like to be played during the service. 

They might also have mentioned a preference about what would happen to their ashes and perhaps if they wanted them to be scattered somewhere special.

If there are no instructions, or if no will exists, then a number of decisions will have to be made regarding the type of funeral and the costs involved.

It’s often a good idea to talk to other family members about the many different options. It’s a time to discuss what’s practical, affordable and, of course, appropriate.

Working with a professional funeral director will certainly help and most will be happy to talk to you about the kind of funeral you want, the options available and the potential costs. 

It’s important to remember, however, that the final decisions will usually be up to you.

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